So, the hubby and I are expecting a little one in mid February! Exciting right? Yes and no. Yes: I love kids and I'm excited about having my own. No: I'm tired, nauseous, and cranky. I just started my 2nd trimester and I've already thrown up twice. In my first trimester, I only threw up once. I'm more tired now than when I was in the first trimester. My clothes no longer fit, but I am losing weight. I have a headache almost every day, I'm too scared to eat in case I throw up, and no matter how early I go to sleep, I'm always tired. And not just oh I need a nap tired, I'm talking about I could go to sleep at noon and not wake up until 6 at night tired. Matter of fact, there are some days, I'll come home from work with the intention to take an hour nap and not wake up until the next day! Oh and did I mention, I'm constantly having to use the bathroom? It's like 7-8 times a day and in the middle of the night. I'm gassy, and I stay hungry (although the nausea prevents me from eating much).
Don't get me wrong however, I'm still super excited about the baby. I'm almost 4 months and I can't wait to find out what we're having. I've already started baby shopping in my head on what I want to get. I have the travel system all picked out, plus I've narrowed the crib down to 3 choices. I've already scoped out girls and boys baby clothes to see what I would want to dress my child in, and I've already got my list prepared on what I need for my baby registry. Excited much? Yes! Everyday, even when I'm going through hell, I think about when I'll finally be able to hold my little one. Will it look like me? My husband? Both of us? Our parents or siblings? Will they be tall or will they take after my Dad's side and be short? Will they play sports? Or will my daughter be (ugh!) a prissy girl? Will my son be more nerdy geek or athletic? Or will they be both? I'm hoping for both, there's nothing like a smart athlete! Will I be a good mom? Will Shaddean be a good dad? And then...Will the grandparents make our lives hell by spoiling the kid rotten?
I've already picked out the names (let's be real, I've had names picked out for YEARS!!!). Godparents have already been decided on, and I've already decided on where I want to dedicate my baby (at none other than Mt. Rose!). I stay on the internet looking at nursery room motifs to get an idea of how I want my baby's room decorated. I like pink and purple for a little princess and blues and greens for my little man. I love going to ultrasound appointments because I always experience such joy at seeing my baby on the monitor. The first two times we saw it, it couldn't be still! It was just moving its little arms and legs. This last time, it was in chill mode--literally! With one arm behind its head, and with its legs crossed at the ankles; my little angel was chilling! It was too cute!
I can't wait for February, but it seems like February can wait for me. I swear time is creeping by at a snail's pace! February please hurry! Besides the fact that I'd love to be free of these pesky symptoms, I cannot wait to meet the little one who resides within me! And it'll be a joy to see my hubby's face when he finally holds the baby. AND I can't wait to place my little one in my parents arms and say, "This is your new grand______"
Oh! And did I mention my brother and his wife are expecting their first child? And that their baby is due in February as well? And that we're practically due at the same time? And no, it wasn't planned. These little ones are our parents first grandchildren. So it's double the blessing for our family!
Friday, August 27, 2010
Immigration
While in class on my break I was reading this article on aol about illegal immigrants entering by way of the Pacific Ocean from Tijuana to California. I'm no racist, so when I say this, don't take it the wrong way...I think that if you can't get here the legal way, then don't get here the illegal way. This goes for Hispanics, people from the Caribbean, Africans, Europeans, Asians, basically people from all walks of life. I don't care who you are, do it the right way. I'm all for helping out others, but I am not all for helping out others who get here illegally.
Bottom line is this: you are a criminal. No, you didn't kill anyone or steal...but you did break the law. You did come illegally. Illegal immigrants come over and are able to get all kinds of benefits, that I cannot get. I'm talking credit cards, credit, homes, cars, etc...meanwhile, some, if not most, don't pay their hospital bills and are on welfare. Then, when they do get work, do they pour their money back in to the US? No! They send it to relatives in Mexico. I understand you're trying ot help your family, but you're here illegally, taking advantage of our government, getting welfare, and to top it off, YOU'RE NOT EVEN HELPING THE ECONOMY!!!
I've talked to some of my Hispanic students and they say, "But, Coach. You don't understand how hard it is in Mexico. We need to come over here. It's rough over there." My response is always this: "My best friends are both not natural American citizens. Lidya is from Ethiopia, and moved to Sudan when she was 6 months. You may have heard of the genocide that's going on over there. I'd say she and her family definitely had it rough. But she still came here the legal way. Matter of fact her grandmother died, and it was only after her death that she was accepted into the States. My other best friend is from the Virgin Islands, and while there is no particular sort of violence or hardship going on, she could have taken the easy route and come here illegally. Instead her parents went through the proper channels. I'm sympathetic to what you are saying, but that does not mean that coming into the States illegally is right."
All I'm saying is that if you want to live here, do it the right way. Plus, not to sound completely like a moron or an insensitive jerk...there is way too much violence and crime currently in Mexico for people to just be coming over here illegally. In this article, they stated that not only are the people coming illegally; but that they are bringing drugs as well. That's one more thing the US does not need: drugs.
I've said it once, and I'll say it again...come correct or don't come at all. Either get here the right way or stay behind in Mexico.
Oh! and another pet peeve...when you get here, learn English! It annoys me immensely when foreigners come to the US (not just Hispanics) and they do not learn English. I do not appreciate the fact that some people have been here for years and do not bother to learn the language. It's annoying to me when I have to have a conference with a parent and they can't speak English. They have to rely on their child to translate. It's annoying because sometimes there just isn't a better way of putting words in a simpler term. It's hard to see the 7 or 8 year old struggle to find a way translate what I am saying. Then, the child keeps asking me to define what I mean...learn English! I also think that it is unfair the way that we have things in Spanish as well as English. If we can't make accommodations for all languages, then we don't need to make accommodations for Spanish speaking people.
And stop creating these little villages. Little Italy, Little Mexico, Chinatown, etc. Trying to recreate what you had back home. I understand that you want to hold onto your customs and traditions, and I applaud that. However, I don't applaud you setting up companies and businesses and only hiring your race. Yet, you can apply to jobs within corporate America. We have affirmative action, but I don't see other races working in say, a Mexican or Asian restaurant. If you can't hire us, then don't try to work in corporate America.
I know I may come across as ignorant or just plain wrong in your opinion. But this is my blog and I am entitled to what I feel. I just hate it when people come here illegally, reap all kinds of benefits, set up businesses and won't hire people not of their race, and then turn around and send the profits outside of the US (effectively not contributing to the US economy).
I'm not asking you to renounce your culture, but I am asking you to contribute to the job market and to the economy...and GET HERE THE LEGAL WAY!!!!
Bottom line is this: you are a criminal. No, you didn't kill anyone or steal...but you did break the law. You did come illegally. Illegal immigrants come over and are able to get all kinds of benefits, that I cannot get. I'm talking credit cards, credit, homes, cars, etc...meanwhile, some, if not most, don't pay their hospital bills and are on welfare. Then, when they do get work, do they pour their money back in to the US? No! They send it to relatives in Mexico. I understand you're trying ot help your family, but you're here illegally, taking advantage of our government, getting welfare, and to top it off, YOU'RE NOT EVEN HELPING THE ECONOMY!!!
I've talked to some of my Hispanic students and they say, "But, Coach. You don't understand how hard it is in Mexico. We need to come over here. It's rough over there." My response is always this: "My best friends are both not natural American citizens. Lidya is from Ethiopia, and moved to Sudan when she was 6 months. You may have heard of the genocide that's going on over there. I'd say she and her family definitely had it rough. But she still came here the legal way. Matter of fact her grandmother died, and it was only after her death that she was accepted into the States. My other best friend is from the Virgin Islands, and while there is no particular sort of violence or hardship going on, she could have taken the easy route and come here illegally. Instead her parents went through the proper channels. I'm sympathetic to what you are saying, but that does not mean that coming into the States illegally is right."
All I'm saying is that if you want to live here, do it the right way. Plus, not to sound completely like a moron or an insensitive jerk...there is way too much violence and crime currently in Mexico for people to just be coming over here illegally. In this article, they stated that not only are the people coming illegally; but that they are bringing drugs as well. That's one more thing the US does not need: drugs.
I've said it once, and I'll say it again...come correct or don't come at all. Either get here the right way or stay behind in Mexico.
Oh! and another pet peeve...when you get here, learn English! It annoys me immensely when foreigners come to the US (not just Hispanics) and they do not learn English. I do not appreciate the fact that some people have been here for years and do not bother to learn the language. It's annoying to me when I have to have a conference with a parent and they can't speak English. They have to rely on their child to translate. It's annoying because sometimes there just isn't a better way of putting words in a simpler term. It's hard to see the 7 or 8 year old struggle to find a way translate what I am saying. Then, the child keeps asking me to define what I mean...learn English! I also think that it is unfair the way that we have things in Spanish as well as English. If we can't make accommodations for all languages, then we don't need to make accommodations for Spanish speaking people.
And stop creating these little villages. Little Italy, Little Mexico, Chinatown, etc. Trying to recreate what you had back home. I understand that you want to hold onto your customs and traditions, and I applaud that. However, I don't applaud you setting up companies and businesses and only hiring your race. Yet, you can apply to jobs within corporate America. We have affirmative action, but I don't see other races working in say, a Mexican or Asian restaurant. If you can't hire us, then don't try to work in corporate America.
I know I may come across as ignorant or just plain wrong in your opinion. But this is my blog and I am entitled to what I feel. I just hate it when people come here illegally, reap all kinds of benefits, set up businesses and won't hire people not of their race, and then turn around and send the profits outside of the US (effectively not contributing to the US economy).
I'm not asking you to renounce your culture, but I am asking you to contribute to the job market and to the economy...and GET HERE THE LEGAL WAY!!!!
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